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| Lets be clear here, "Soda? or Candy?" |
Yes, you read that correctly and I just can't hold back my excitement. Each year we receive this email and I LOVE IT! This organization, that we, as a family, have had the pleasure to be a part of for many years (4 Kids remember!) emails a kind reminder of what is expected from parents as spectators in this organization. Now every sport is different, absolutely, but when it comes to being a spectator at any sport, chairs or bleachers, you need to remember...
if you are in the stands, you are the players biggest fan!
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| Julia scored her 1st Goal! |
You are not at that particular game, regardless of what sport it is, to judge, ridicule, complain, moan out loud, or scream at the other players, either team, or even your own child. I have seen coaches spend endless hours on organizing tournaments, communicating with parents, putting a team plan in action and doing the best they can while teaching and growing their team the best way possible. Some parents are the best AND worse advocate for their child. Everyone usually notices which one you are before you. Sidenote: I have also noticed maybe one or two coaches forgetting about the team and revolving everything around their OWN child. TEAM means you coach a TEAM. There are other "individual" sports that you and, oh yeah, your child may be better off taking advantage of IF this is you. It's still not too late to chase your own dreams while you let your child chase theirs.
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| David bringing it home! |
So putting that aside and on one more note, we have had some amazing parents take the time to coach our children and are still very grateful for every single one of them. The endless amount of time and fairness that you put into your team is forever appreciated, and it DOES take a village to raise a child. As a coach, you are a huge part of that village, so THANK YOU!
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| Cameron hitting it outta the park! |
Ok, moving forward for real now, there is nothing more frustrating on a team sport than hearing the fans moan and yell out loud or under their breath to either team. Hopefully the players are already doing the best they can. Most are already beating themselves up enough if they missed a play or other. Put yourself out there, listening to your parents, complete embarrassment, right?! We are all our own worse critic. Don't forget your one and only job when watching the game, is to enjoy the game and be THEIR BIGGEST FAN, save the coaching and teaching to the coaches! (& winning is EVERYTHING! hahaha!! Just Joking of course but it sure makes the game more fun!)
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| Richie keeping it real |
Even when I see the kids have that "magical moment" on the field, the coach still takes that moment to make it a teaching lesson of how and what to do next time to be better. That's WHY you have your child in the game, remember?!! Its not fun when they stop learning. Let the coaches do what they take the time away from their own families to do, COACH OUR KIDS!
Ok, so enough chat, take the following "Parent Sideline Guidelines" from this organization, regardless of age it applies to, & for what it is just remember, IF YOU ARE IN THE STANDS, YOU BE THEIR BIGGEST FANS! I can't even pick a favorite to make sure you read, so just read all of it, I'm sure you'll agree with each one!
**The following email was a kind reminder sent out to our family from the organization "The Moms" children partake in for the purpose of all moving forward in the season on the same note. Organization is not mentioned for protection from the parents that don't understand all the above and still feel the need to, well, be the judge.**
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| Maximus loving the game |
1. There will be no criticism, name-calling, or threats made towards any of our players - your child, your child's teammate, an opponent. NOBODY. We can cheer and enjoy the game, but we will not put down, insult, degrade, or criticize any of our players. After all, we are one team. Despite that your child's team scores, you do not have permission to taunt, mock, or storm the field in celebration or retaliation of the fact that a 5-7 year old child managed to give up a score or score him/herself. It also means that you don't automatically become the better parent/grandparent/etc. because your child's team scored. We aren't winning any championships, and I'd like us all to behave as if we're all one team (because we are).
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| The LOVE of the game |
2. There will be no coaching from any parents during the middle of the game. For a 5-7 year old, the game is difficult enough to comprehend (regardless if you think so or not), so extra voices only confuses and slows down our players' reactions. Let's keep these distractions down to 1 voice, the coach. You may cheer, but don't over-coach from the sideline. If you'd like to volunteer to coach, that's another issue. I can always use help during the week in training. I can also use your coaching at home, but during games, the ears need to go to the coach. Thank you!
3. Your child must be to the game on time, and if asked, your child should be there so many minutes before the game starts. Normally, it's a good idea to warm up a child before asking them to play a contact sport. Getting there a minute beforehand only gives your child more of a chance to get hurt. One more thing is that our coaches like to go over who is starting and plan for who can come in next. Getting there late only ruins a coach's substitution plans and can drastically change what a game looks like. So, if you're going to be late, be sure to notify the coach.
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| Maximus moving fast! |
4. Your child is not allowed to miss a training or game unless YOU have notified the coach before the training or game begins. We do write up huge lesson plans which involve all of the kids, plan out an entire game of substitutions, and other aspects which get thrown in the trash when one player arrives late or misses. Please take this into account as you plan for each game.
5. There are no pets, smoking, and/or cursing on the sidelines. Park rules dictate the first two. Our children's ages dictate the last. Let's be aware of who we are there for, the kids. Let's be good role models for them.
6. There are a few rules in which our coaches will try to teach our kids in a manageable way (handballs, heading, pushing, grabbing, obstruction, etc), but because they are 5-7, we will handle it differently than perhaps, we'd handle it with older children. Allow our coaches to manage these difficult pieces.
To every story there is a beginning and an end. But with this one, our Dibbs17 Journey, is a full circle. My Unplanned Purpose is what I love to call it. This story is a million little pieces all coming together, all playing out to be pieces to a bigger puzzle that neither you nor I could ever piece on our own, or alone. This story you may say, doesn’t have an exact beginning, not even a definite end or a start and finish line. You could absolutely say a story of life and death, but I say this is a story of a million angels working hard at placing every moment, every person, every challenge, every heartache, and every triumph into the right place at the right time. So I begin our story in the middle, with a man that loved his life, especially his wife and children, and all the pieces that were placed just perfectly for him. Even when he looks back and tells the story of when his world fell apart as his youngest 18 yr old daughter collapsed on their front porch…
