Like a Diet; Get rid of the junk because the good is more fulfilling!
The Gossip Mom; We all know one, we've all been one and maybe we've even gotten trapped in the corner WITH one. Either way you know the results are never good and when you look back, it was time wasted. Words hurt. Period. Being a Mom is tough enough! Moms need to stick together, support each other, encourage each other and set the example that every daughter needs at any age to strengthen their confidence from a child to a grown woman. (The same goes for moms with sons too!)
"Always be the person that when someone does talk negative about you, others won't believe them anyway."
We cannot control what others say and do but we can control our own actions. And how we act or react is what our children watch, observe and duplicate, the good, bad and the ugly. Its like you want to spray "PAM" Protection on your children every morning. You want words and hurt to slide right off of them and not effect them in anyway. That is exactly what we need to "show" our children and let go of negativity and let it slide right off us finding the cup is half full, never half empty. There is good in everyone. Forgiveness and saying "I'm sorry" is not about the other person winning, its about being honest with yourself and finding closure within.
Don't accept words about others to others, accept the person you took the time to know from the start.
Words are like toothpaste, once they are out you can never put them back in. Make them great words that will make other moms feel great about themselves and never forget it.
When we find strength in ourselves as women, we find we are building so many more strengths in our children as moms. We are a reflection of the closest people around us. We find our circle of friends as we get older, smaller and tighter, and we choose to spend the time with people we enjoy, that embrace everyday, that don't constantly have their guard up and can be themselves because they trust and love you for YOU.
Be with the people that CELEBRATE YOU not TOLERATE you! Life. Is. Too. Short.
We all have our good days and bad days but do we really need to fill those days with people that find joy in hurting others? You don't want your children to choose friends that hurt them so why would you? Your children watch the people you choose to be with and how you interact together. What you accept, is what they will accept. How you handle situations is how your children will handle situations. Don't get caught up in what you don't want your children to get caught up in, its difficult, hurtful, stressful and a complete waste of Gods given time to one another.
When you don't feel great about being with who's in front of you, be kind, be yourself, find one good thing about them, then move on without another judgmental thought. If you find some hurtful or incorrect information being spread, nip it in the bootie right there! Be the friend you want your children to be or have; CONFRONT IT, PUT A STOP TO IT and MOVE ON! My own friends that I respect the most are the ones that talk it out, maybe even argue it out, and move forward together. The friends that I hear put a stop right there and say, "That's too gossipy, I'm not even going there." Or the friends that sit with an awesome listening ear and don't take one second to judge me or the situation.
Everyday, I learn from the people I'm around on traits I want to follow and traits I want to be sure to rid of because everyday is a new lesson learned in my book!
What you say "no" to in your everyday choices, you are also saying "yes" to something or someone else. "No, I'm unable to get together with you today." leaves you with a "yes" to enjoy time with your children or do something that makes you feel great inside and enjoy your day at every given moment. Don't waste your extremely valuable and busy time with someone that finds joy in hurting others by words or actions, or someone you are not comfortable with, your time is so precious. Say "yes" to choices that make you YOU!
Wreck It Ralph says it best and all Moms & Children should share this alike....
"There's noone I'd rather be than ME!"
Love who you are and all you stand for as the best Mom ever!!
